The Five Love Launguages : Profile for Husbands

You may think that you know your primary Love Language , or you might not. The Five Languages Profile might help you know for certain which love language is yours:

♡ Words of affirmation
♥ Quality time
♡Receiving gifts
♥Acts of service
♡Physical touch 

Allow yourself 15 to 30 minutes to complete the profile.

1. I wish my wife would send me affectionate emails or texts.   A
     I would like more hugs from my wife.  E

2. I would like to spend more time alone with my wife.B
     I enjoy working around the house with my wife. D

3. Receiving special gifts from my wife makes me happy.  C
     One of my favourite things is travelling with my wife. B

4. I would like my wife to run errands or put gas in my car. D
     I wish my my  wife would touch me more. E

5. I wish my wife would put her arm around me in public.  E
     Every now and then I'd like to get a gift from my wife. C

6. I like going places with my wife - even the grocery store! B
     I like to hold my wife's hand. E 

7. I value the gifts my wife gives me. C
     I would love to hear my wife say  "I love you " more often. A

8. I wish my wife would sit close to me more often. E
     I feel loved when my wife tells me , "You look good." A

9. I wish my wife and I could spend more time together.  B
      Even the smallest gift from my wife is important to me. C

10. I would love it if my wife could say, "I'm proud of you." A
        When my wife cooks a nice meal for me, I feel  very loved. D

11. No matter what we do, I love doing things with my wife. B
       I wish my wife would say more supportive things to me. A

12. Little things my wife does for me mean a lot. D
        My wife and I need to hug more. E

13. I would love to hear  more praise from my wife. A
        It means a lot to me when my wife gives me gifts I really like. C

14. I wish my wife and I could spend more time together. B
        I would like to get back rubs from my wife more often. E

 

15. I would like my wife to be happier when I achieve something. A
        I wish my wife would help me with chores. D

16. I never get tired of my wife's kisses. E
         I wish my wife would show more interest in things I like to do. B

17. I would like my wife to work with me on projects.  D
        I wish my wife would get more excited about gifts from me. C

18. I love it when my wife compliments my appearance . A
        I wish my wife wouldn't jump in to criticise my ideas. B

19. I can't help but touch my wife when she's close by. E
        I wish my wife would now and then run errands for me. D

20. I wish my wife could sense when I'm overworked - and help. D
        I would like my wife to put more thought into gifts for me. C        

21. I wish my wife would give me her full attention when we're talking. B

         Keeping the house clean is an important act of service. D

22. I look forward to seeing what my wife gives me for her birthday. C

        I know my wife loves me, but I wish she would say it more often. A

23. I'd like it if my wife could bring me a gift when she takes a trip. C

         I wish my wife would help me with a chore I dislike. D 

24. It bothers me when my wife interrupts me .B

         I never get tired of receiving gifts from my wife. C

25. I want my wife to help me out when I'm tired. D 

         I wish my wife was as enthusiastic about going places as I am. B

26. I love having sex with my wife. E

        I like it when my wife picks up little things she knows I'll like. C

27. I wish my wife would be more encouraging. A

        I love to watch movies with my wife. B

28. If I received a gift from my wife, I would feel appreciated. C

         I just can't keep my hands off my wife. E

29. I would love it if my wife would help me with things I have to do. D

        I would really like it if my wife sometimes said, " I appreciate you." A

30. I love embracing my wife after we've been apart for a while. E 

        I want to hear my wife say she believes in me. A 

Now , tally your score and get to know what YOUR Love Language is !!!

A : ---------- B : ---------- C : ---------- D : ---------- E : ----------

A=  Words of Affirmation   B= Quality Time  C= Receiving Gifts 

D= Acts of Service  E= Physical Touch 

TEN GOLDEN SECRETS OF MARRIAGE

1. Everyone you marry has a weakness.

Only God has no weakness. Every rose has its thorn.

2. Everyone you marry has a dark history.

No one is an angel. Avoid digging the past. Forgive and forget.

3. Every marriage has its own challenges. 

Every shining  marriage has gone through the test of fire. Marriage is not a bed of roses.

4. Every marriage has different levels of success.

We can never be equal, some will be far front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stress , be patient , work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

5. To marry is to declare war.

When you marry you enter into a battlefield. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

6. There is no perfect marriage.

There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work , volunteer yourself and perfect it daily.

7. God cannot give you a complete person you desire.

He gives you: him or her in the form of raw material in order for you to mould what you desire.

8. To marry is to take a risk.

You cannot predict what will happen after marriage ; situations may change. So leave room for adjustment.

9. Marriage is not a contract , it is permanent. 

Marriage needs total commitment. Love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind.

10.Every marriage has a price to pay.

There is no free Love in marriage . You cannot love without giving or sacrificing.

The Five Love Languages

I recently stumbled on this book , because my friend's friend got engaged and she wanted to get her friend a meaningful gift. A book is a great gift because a little knowledge on any given topic , is by no means a dangerous thing. She bought the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

The book offers the secret to Love that Lasts , in the form of five simple themes:

1. Words of Affirmation.

2. Quality Time.

3. Gifts.

4. Acts of Service.

5. Physical Touch.

This week on Chariot of Love we have been tackling a two part series: 10 Things Men Hate about Women and 10 Things Women Hate about Men.  Hate is a strong word especially used in the arena of relationships but the reason we did this is to demystify those little myths that we have towards each other. The feedback from the Facebook page is proof enough.

Here are some of the interesting comments on the topic:

•  Charity Wambui mwanamke kichwa "marenge'

     Like · Reply · 1 · 10 May at 12:59
• Shelmith Fredrick Utq Minstry Dat bad eye a man gives ukiambiwa ua smart n u left ua house wit him n hakukwambia

  Like · Reply · 1 · 10 May at 12:42
•           Naomi Njeri women hates nagging men

         Like · Reply · 1 · 8 May at 08:24
•      Shelmith Fredrick Utq Minstry Men hate nagging wives,women hate men who dnt give them                          attention,men who dnt compliment them,men who dnt listen to them

       Like · Reply · 10 May at 12:

  • Newton Wairimu Keinter 1 i het a cheting woman.2 i het a woman hu is after my mony.3 i het a dirty woman ananuka mdomo.4 i het a woman whu is cheap to get........

    Like · Reply · 1 · 9 May at 22:22
  • Shelmith Fredrick Utq Minstry Men hate one thng sijawai skia ingine I hear them say they hate a nagging wife kuna zingne mnisaidie kujua plz hahaha

    Like · Reply · 10 May at 12:58
  • Shelmith Fredrick Utq Minstry Niko kwa wanaume bado story za he wants u to be like his mother for heavens sake huwes mek u hv a difrent personality n dnt try fake it umplease cz no mata wat u do utakuwa disapointed,tabia ya kwenda na boys out yet hataki wife awe na social life dats selfish,tabia ya kusema a ladies place is in the kitchen nikama yeye akipikisaidia ni dhambi thot God created eve as a helper not a slave,tabia ya kujifanya kusahau kila kitu sio bday,sio anniversary aaaiii hata ka uko busy boss wen u value smthng u dnt forget such thngs,tabia ya kuja kwa hao n its like u dnt exist to ua kids they r strangers to u n ua strangers to them cz u nva even hav time si uko kwa gazeti ama u brot kazi home as if ofy was full kwa meza hungemalizia huko ama uiweke kando hav tym wit ua family unaweza extend kazi yako later so sijasema mtu akeshe ofy peleka kazi home bt manage ua tym balance ua thngs familia ipate nafasi kukujua n uwajue pia

    Like · Reply · 10 May at 12:57
  • Shelmith Fredrick Utq Minstry In men women hate mwaume akiangalia dame mwngne wit wanting eyes hata akiwa hawana adabu hiyo sector by the way,unaweza sema kitu impite cz mind imebebwa na skirt,dress,tyts imepita story ya kurusha sock anywea,kutouliza opinion wen making a family decision,wen he fakes kindness anasambaza pesa huko nje kufurahisha watu them familia inalala njaa,tabia ya kufika kwa hao anasoma gazeti hata huwa hajui the changes in the house cz hana hizo,tabia ya kwambia dame amchague ama achague kazi seriously,tabia ya kukazia wife to look good ati kwani anataka kuplease nani akiwa sexy yet dame akipita wanamfuata na macho

  
  

This book offers a two way perspective between a man and a woman and what will enable them to have a successful marriage or relationship. 

Let men and women not forget what made them love each other in the first place. 

Chariot of Love. 

Chariot of Love Season One Episode Recap: What Do Women Want?

What Women Want. Aired on Sunday 3rd November 2013.

On the show:

 The Host: Brian Ogana 

Guest Panellists: 

Chris Hart : Relationship Psychologist 

Doreen Nyawira: Musician and  Writer

Masinde Dayan: Poet 

Muthoni Maina: Freelance writer

Episode Recap:

If we all knew the answer to that,we would dismiss our therapists, pastors and peers from endless conversations about how to please women. However , there are certain measures that we can use to navigate the shark infested ocean that is romance because whether you are a gentleman at oxford or you're a herder at Namanga no man knows this answer for sure.

The episode was centred around this elusive subject , the interviews from the audience revealed that men are running scared and suggested that they needed divine intervention to be able to cope with the endless demands of women. For the women , they wanted a man who can cater to their needs and be self -sufficient one even said , he has to have money it goes without saying.

Are women that demanding to the point where they become nags? Or is because men are not attentive.

Highlights of the show:

Doreen was a delight to have to the show and she brought some laughs making it very light and comfortable and her warmth was contagious that even Brian's bow tie titled a little. Newcomer , Masinde Dayan was also a fresh of breath air , he came of insightful and intelligent. 

What women want?

Brian: Women want emotional security. 

Chris: Women may not care that much about looks as much as they care about how much money he's got. 

Doreen: Women need to be cherished , respected and loved. 

Muthoni: Women need dependability and compatibility. 

Those were the main highlights of the show , be sure to tune in next week same station same time and remember next week the panel discusses WHAT MEN WANT?

Kwaheri!

Chariot of Love.